Can I Have Two Baby Showers?

Question

I know someone else is supposed to throw the shower for the parents to be. I would like my sister in law to throw it but she just had a baby and can't afford it so I won't offend her by asking. Me and my fiance are throwing it. My family and his family don't know eachother at all and I think it would be quite awkward. My family is more upbeat and fun while his family is polite and traditional. I was wondering if we could throw one baby shower on a Saturday for my family and a Sunday for his? I don't think either family would be offended. I want the baby shower to be a fun time for everyone and I think combining the families into one shower would cause awkwardness and cause people to be shy. What are your opinions?

Answer 1

I think that considering the fact that you're married and that you're about to have a child together that you should just have one baby shower and invite both sides of the family. Unless you and your husbands family has a grudge against the other one I would say they will have to learn to get along at some point. Hope I helped.:)

Answer 2

You can't throw yourself a shower, someone else has to host it for you. You can cover the costs as long as the guests never know- just put all the grandparents' names on the invitations as the hosts. It's no cost to them and they get credit for throwing you a shower! There's no reason not to combine both families and have one shower, trust me if you try to do it 2 days in a row late in your pregnancy you'll be exhausted. Plus it'll cost you tons more to hire a caterer 2 days in a row when you could just have them com eonce, either on Sat or Sun.



At showers, people form their own groups and seat themselves accordingly. You just have to provide the food and dessert and decorations and when people show up let them find their friends/relatives. If you invite someone who doesn't know anyone else at the shower, chances are that person would politely decline to attend- that's what I usually do because sitting thru a shower without knowing any of the other guests is awkward. But if you're inviting family from both sides, everyone will be able to sit with someone they know.

Answer 3

Its crazy but I had 3 lol My fiances family lives in Washington State while we live in West Virginia. They threw me one over there and had my sister in law pretend to be me lol My mom threw me one but didnt invite any of my friends just a couple of her friends that I hardly even knew so I wanted to throw myself one so I could share the experience with my friends. In your situation though I would just have one. If your getting married and having a child together itd be nice for the families to meet and the happy occasion would lighten the mood and give everyone something to talk about. Thats just what I would do but do what makes you comfortable. Im currently 29 weeks pregnant and Im only having 1 baby shower this time lol My mother in law is throwing it and shes inviting people from a guest list she asked me to write =) I hope this helps. Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy!

Answer 4

Well maybe your family can gets his to let loose a little. But no nothing wrong with having two, I did. My mother threw me my first while pregnant and I invited my husbands family to it, but his mother lives 6 hrs away and couldn't make it. So after I had my baby she threw me one and invited alot of friends and relatives I hadn't met from out of town. I liked it that way because between my family and my moms friends and his family and his moms friends I got alot of thing, more than what I had room for actually. Good Luck and Congrats!

Answer 5

I had two showers, one for each family. Both of our moms attended each shower though. Our families get along but his mom and sister really wanted to throw one and then my aunts really wanted to throw one. It would've been way too big to have both families together. It was nice to have his mom at my family's shower and it was nice having my mom at his family's shower.

Answer 6

In my circumstances I was going to throw two showers, but I was too broke to throw myself one.. Anyway, I'm originally from San Diego so I had one there. My family paid for it and put it all together, which was awesome because I have no money to put on something like that.

I live elsewhere, and wanted to throw one where I live but I had to put it together myself. That would have been for my friends and coworkers where I live, and my boyfriends family.

I feel it's ok to have two showers, but in other cases, it's easier to have one just for money reasons.

Answer 7

Thats kinda stupid Id be offended... Id be like wtf? she didnt want us to be in the same house as her family?? Ihad 2 baby showers but not because I didnt want to mix families. my mother in law allways does it for me so my mom.decided to do one for me allso. when my mother in law did it she invited every one and her friends but it was mostly her friends and family since she dont know alot of mine and when my mom did hers she invited all.of them and HER FRIENDS And alot of my moms friends and family went. Im tired sorry if that didnt make sence... peace!