Moms out there: describe in the best way you know how what the experience of childbirth was like?

Question

We men will never know what a woman has to go through. For the biologically ignorant male, what's it like physically, emotionally, mentally...ANY descriptive way you can tell us!

Answer 1

Well, each time is different. I do know that the pain is incredible, and it feels strange being so helpless; your body takes over and there's nothing you can do! I also found it very disconcerting to have people coming in and checking the progress of the cervix - it's painful and it reduced to me an orifice which was really upsetting for a shy person. However, it was also so unbelievably amazing to see that little person and hear its first cry; but then after, it was a little lonely because my "buddy" was gone - no more internal conversations with the person in my belly. And tired. I was very very tired and sore and there was this demanding infant needing attention. Still, there's nothing more you want to do than to touch that baby, smell its hair, watch it sleep...

Answer 2

It's something I believe men will never understand. Physically, its painful, with the worst tightening you could even imagine in your stomach, and during delivery, pushing out a watermellon through a smaller hole is extremely painful and the stretching of it makes you feel like you are on fire. Emotionally, its an exciting and scary time, especially with your firstborn. You're hoping everything goes ok, but your soooo sooo excited to finally meet your baby that I believe is what gets a woman through it. The reward at the end is so worth the 9 months of being uncomfortable and the hours of labor. Labor is exhausting, like running a marathon with cramps. But its true that as soon as that baby comes out, it all goes away. Recovery is different depending on if it was a natural birth, a c-section, if the woman tore while pushing the baby out, ect. And EVERY delivery is different. What one woman feels, many others won't. Some women have high pain tolerance and take it like champs, and other are crying from the pain when they are dialated to 1 centimeter. So while we can all give our personal experiences with you, its no guarantee that is what your partner/spouse's experience will be like.

Answer 3

Delivery is distinctive for each girl. If your water breaks you can also suppose a surprising gush of fluid or a trickle that does not leave. Contractions are the tightening of the entire muscle mass related to the uterus. Some females suppose them more potent than others. It quite depends upon your private agony tollerance degree as to how dangerous you'll suppose that they're. Child supply isn't painless, however this is a kind of agony that you are going to eternally have a difficult time describing. You will succeed in a factor whilst your frame mechanically makes you push and it's difficult to not push whilst you succeed in that level. When the youngster's head crowns you'll suppose a colossal quantity of strain because the shoulders emerge. Trust me whilst that youngster is out, you'll no longer suppose approximately the agony. Epidurals can ease the agony related to youngster delivery to be able to benefit from the delivery of your youngster. Natural childbirth does no longer imply that you just need to endure via the agony of work.

Answer 4

my experiences were good ones. i had my husband by my side the whole time. it makes a woman feel good to have support, love and a friend to talk to and share the experience with. since i had three inductions, the potocin that they give you is no joke. it brings the contractions harder and faster and they can be very awful at times. i was a wreck mentally and emotionally and times i felt really depressed and down on myself because i was bringing a child into a world where people have no respect for others and could care less. it is tiring both mentally and physically as well as emotionally for a woman going through chilld birth , but i can say that i actually enjoyed doing it. it made me feel like i had accomplished a lot out of life.

Answer 5

It's very sweet that you want to understand but know that you could never know because you are not a woman and thank God for it. You don't know what a favor He did for you when he designed women to carry the child.



Let me not even tell you about the nine months prior to this whole birth thing! That was a terror. You feel like you are going crazy if it is the first pregnancy. Nothing is normal. At first, you can't imagine what it's like to want to go into labor because you are so enthralled with the baby's development but THEN...OMG...THEN, you are like,"Get this thing out of me".





My water broke almost a week and a half late and I had no pains. I was taken to the hospital where the dumb doctor tells me my water had not broken. Hours later the RNP tells me the Doc was out of his mind because my baby was at risk due to low fluids!



They jab you, fist you and poke you while you are in the worst pain of your life. I was hoping the doctor would come in with a rifle to shoot me since I thought that would relieve my pain.





I was in labor for 24 hours when I realized that I hadn't slept and needed to get some rest. They gave me the best stuff that knocked me out but was awakened by the pain.



After 28 hours of torture, the kind that takes over your entire body, an Ultrasound was taken. I hadn't dilated more than 2 cm in 24 hours. It was ruled that my baby's head might have been incompatible with my pelvic bones.

The doctor said she wasn't sure but did not want to risk it. After all, she said that 25 women had come and go while I was there and they all had their babies before me.



I was given an emergency C-section but not before I was given 4 botched epidurals. Finally, the 5th one took and it was heaven. Until all the meds kicked in and I suffered what felt like a seizure on the gurney.



It was terrible, but the best thing about labor was the result. My daughter, Phoebe, is 7 months old and of course, I would do it again!





Also, I am forever convinced that I am special because I am a woman. Not only can I be beautiful but I can give birth and live to tell about it!

Answer 6

Giving birth is best described like feeling extremely constipated, I suppose. When you start pushing at least; you keep pushing and it doesn't move, is the feeling, lol. But not funny; though, it just sounds weird to compare giving birth to needing to take a poo; but the reason for this is because it pushes on the lower pelvic floor, which gives the sesation of doing a large poo. Before you push; it's just like a cramp in the lower gut (think of the worst stomach flu you've ever had, like that) every little bit. For me, I was in labour for 36 hours. Mentally, emotionally, it's exhasting. There's no other word to describe it. After my daughter was born, it was the most tired I've ever been in my life. I dont remember some of it, after I was in the hopital (about 11 hours); though I remember until that. I remember being booked in, going to the room, laying down, then getting up, having a shower, my hubby being there; etc., but looking back at it, it seemed from the time I was in the hospital, it flew. But through the pain, the weird half-remembered memories from the hospital; it's worth it. My little girl is our world, our Serenity, as is her name.

Answer 7

Overwhelming. Completley overwhelming.



The actual feeling of contractions, the best way I can describe them, is like a big charley-horse, inside you.



can't vouch for the giving birth part. I labored for 24 hours and ended up in a cesarean. That was a lot worse than labor, though. Idont recommend a cesarean. I never want to go through surgery again.

Answer 8

For me I was so excited and worried at the same time I couldn't control my emotions if my husband hadn't there I think I would have really lost it. The pain of labor is over whelming and having some one you love hold your hand is a big help. After that baby is born and you're holding him/her in your arms you breath a sie of relief that it's over and you feel the most love and joy I think a person could ever feel in such a short periode of time. Unfortunatley I wasn't able to vaginally give birth but those contractions almost made me glad to go under the knife.

Answer 9

First it was the worse stomach ache I ever had followed by the most extreme pain I have ever felt in my life. There are no words or sensations I could use to desribe it. (Natural childbirth, no pain medication) Then after it is all said and done, I had a 3 degree tear, so think....2 holes become one. How would you feel if someone gut you from your penis hole to your balls. I think the sentence no words to describe the pain comes to mind.

Answer 10

Mentally exausting, its a marathon that feels like its never going to be over, you can't get comfortable, nurses are trying to shuv drugs down your throat, people keep coming in and out of the room when you feel half naked (those stupid gowns really do need to be bigger for the pregnant women) The only think that really helped me concentrate on relaxing was my hubby breathing really deep moans with me and giving me counter pressure when the pains came, I didn't want to know how much longer the agonizing pain was going to last I just wanted to know when they were coming so i could brace myself and take a deep breath.

Answer 11

Um, it hurt like a biotch. It's true that it is like taking an enormous poo that just won't budge, but that's at the end. The cramps you get before that, Ouch. And that's an understatement. But everyone, including the doctor, nurses, my husband and my mom, all told me how cultured I was because I did not let out one loud cry of pain. This is without any meds, whatsoever. I must have a higher threshold for pain than I thought.

Answer 12

I was in labor for 27 hours, and threw the Lamaze crap out the window and screamed for DRUGSSSS. Well, that was a mistake, the drugs put me to sleep for the 2 minutes between contractions and I would wake up FOR for each contraction....sheesh. Then it took me 2 hours to finally push her out (her head was in the 90th percentile for size) and after I tore and the Dr. was sewing me back together, I screamed at her to stop embroidering her initials down there and get done already.....my goodness, I never knew I could use such language as I did that day.... LOL

Answer 13

Physically: Probably like someone squeezing your balls as hard as they could for 8 hours while kicking you as hard as they could in the stomach. Now multiply that by 100, and you would be close to feeling the pain of childbirth.

Emotionally: a roller coaster, think of the saddest thing that ever happened to you and then the next minute the happiest thing that ever happened to you. that's how emotional being pregnant is.

Answer 14

My husband and I went through lamas class together. So we were prepared a bit on what to expect. My husband was great during my labor and delivery. He helped me do my breathing by doing them with me when I was having contractions and held my hand every step of the way. After I had my Demerol everything seemed quite surreal. I had tremendous pain. The worst I had ever felt. I have been through a tonsillectomy, gallbladder removal surgery, and even passed a kidney stone (which to me would be the closest a male could get to understanding the pain we feel if he has ever passed one. Times that pain by at least 80%!), and none of them even compared to the pain I went through. I had our first, and only, child when I was 30. I was scared, excited, and very anxious if the child was a boy or girl. We are both old fashioned and wanted to find out when the child was born. To us it was the biggest and best surprise, and considering everyone thought I was having a boy (including me) it definatley was a surprise when I had a beautiful 7 lb 8 3/4 oz girl ( and she was 3 weeks early...imagine if I carried full term how big she would have been...phew!). There definately was a few hilarious moments that I remember..My OBGYN kept going in and out of the room like right after he told me to push...my Mom got nervous one time and shouted "Who is going to catch it?!" Coming from a woman who has had 6 children I had to laugh right in the middle of a major contraction!! Another time, after I was pleading to be drugged (oh yeah, I thought I could be brave enough to do the "natural" birth...ha!) I kept saying I wanted another shot and that it wasn't working....of course, I didn't realize that from the time of the shot until it hit me only 2 minutes had went by. The last time I asked I was told that I kinda just stopped mid sentence and said "Oh yeah, that's good stuff"! When the baby was at the crowing stage, all I can remember from my perspective was that it sounded like I was in the middle of a football game when the running back was gaining major yardage and then got tackled. I had a contraction and pushed...the baby's head started to crown...the roar in the room of anticipation and excitement lifted higher and higher...then the contraction went away and of course the baby's head went back in a little and all through out the room all I could here was "ahhhhhhhhhhhhh". It was a very hilarious afterthought once I reminiced about it afterwords. I imagine some of you may be wondering why there may have been so much commotion in the room. I am the youngest of six kids and the last on my side to have a child. On my husbands side, he was the first to have a child(he is 8 years younger than me). I am very close to my family, so therefore, when I went into labor to join me in the room was my husband, my mom, my dad (who peeked in on me only twice) was in the waiting room, two of my sisters, my mother-in-law, and one of my sisters-in-law(they thought by her watching it would deter her from having kids for a while). Of course, there was the doctor, and two OB nurses. It was a full house!! LOL. I didn't care either, like I said I was scared and having all that family around me comforted me. After was all said and done. I was told by the OB staff that it was the best labor and delivery they ever helped with. I didn't call my husband any names, and he was told that he was the best partner anyone in labor could ever have!



In conclusion: It was the best, worst pain I ever had!!!



I hope I didn't gross anyone out by any of the details I gave. It is life, and it doesn't get talked about enough....

Answer 15

My experience actually wasn't bad. I was so excited about my son arriving I hardly noticed the pain. After I had my son and the placenta was passed, I was a little woozy when I stood up to go to the bathroom, but the pain was minimal from the actual birth itself.

Answer 16

It's exhausing and you are running a marathon on your fattest and tiredest day. It's like passing a melon sized kidney stone.

All the while you have a knife being twisted in your back.

That's with an epidural.

Answer 17

Like getting kicked in the ballz while you have a bad case of the bubble guts for seven or longer hours non-stop.

Answer 18

for me it felt like a was extremely constipated. you feel a lot of pressure on your butt and it feels like its about to explode/ haha

the contractions are bad>>> you can get the drugs to feel less pain but when you get the drugs heres what happens>>>>>>>>>

your legs go numb so you cant walk, you can no longer lay down

(because then it wont work) and you feel EXTREME pressure on your butt. KABOOM. and when it finally pops out .....it feels like when you pop the cork off a champagne bottle,hehehe seriously

Answer 19

I had nothing for pain and I felt like I was being ripped from the inside out...well I was. Was extremely exhausting, and EXTREMELY painful, but well worth it.

Answer 20

best way i can describe actually giving birth feel like taking a really big sh*t, sorry if i grossed anyone out

Answer 21

Well labor only for me because mine were c-sections. Labor was basically like being tortured!!!

Answer 22

Like trying to push a roast thru your nostril....