After having your little one... Did you/ do you want another one?

Question

Okay alot of people once they give birth to their first... Automatically say they are finished, they don't want to do it again. Sometimes they change their minds, sometimes they truly never have another child.

Just out of curiousity (not judgement), after having your little one... Do/did you want another one?

For me it was the complete opposite. My pregnancy went okay, although I ended up on bedrest, and doctors appts every other day. And my labor, no pain medicines worked, so I was completely on my own. But that said, I still would like to have another one (or two). Just having our daughter, and how much we love her... we can't imagine the happiness it would bring to have more. The first week home with her we were already talking about having another one.... Just not in another year or two.

So what about you, what impact did your labor or pregnancy have on your decision to have another child?

Answer 1

My first pregnancy was fair. I was wicked sick throughout and had a lot of contractions that were really bad near the end and a lot of sleepless nights. I got to the hospital though at 5 am and wasn't quite in labor yet, but they kept me just in case for a couple hours. . When they checked me at 7:30 am I was 8 cm dilated! My son was born at 12:38 that afternoon! But only after 3 hours and 38 minutes of pushing. I was thinking to myself, never again will I do this! They had to take him away from me at first because he has his first bowel movement inside of me, so they had to clear it from his lungs. But the second they actually handed him to me, I wanted another right away! I got pregnant again when he was 3 months old, due for baby number two on his first birthday. Well our daughter was 4 days late, so we have two amazing kids 1 year and 4 days apart. After her,I swore I wanted another right off too, but knew we couldn't afford it. So maybe in a few years we will have another, but if we do, I know I will want two right back to back again, as I love having them so close in age and wouldn't trade it for anything.

Answer 2

I have changed my mind more times than I can count! Some days I say, Yes, I can and want to do it again. But other days I cannot even imagine having another baby to care for all over again. To go through all the crying and sleepless nights again...I'd have to be crazy! My son is still such a high needs baby at 12 months. My labor was quite hard and long and ended in an emergency c-section that left me with PTSD and that really effected me and still does. For a long time I said, never again But I believe I am meant to have more babies. If I didn't, I know I would be disappointed. Sometimes I wonder if I could even love another child as much as I love my son. But I've been told it's like you grow another heart and there is always room for one more. We'll probably wait another year before trying again.

Answer 3

I think labour has a big iompact on wether dec iding if u want another 1 but everyones differnt,some easier than others..



My pregnancy was great no problems except i was a bit nervious through out as i had miscarried b4 n was convinced something was going to happen gladly all was fine..

Labour again was good was lucky was 23hrs bt slow progression so contractions were a doddle n not strong however had to get on a drip which made them stronger then the big contractions started LOL bt only had them for 40 minutes n bubs was here...so i was very lucky as ppl have them for hours or even days



Yep i want another 1, My man asked me to when bubs was 4 months old totally changed daddy for the better...Feel so grateful every day n blessed LOVE BEING A MUMMY and definetly having more..

Was thinking of tryn soon so equal when new baby comes bubs will be 2 but scary as well as il just be getting in to a working routine then changes again bt sacrifies r worth it

Answer 4

First of all, congrats! I had my son (my first) on May 15th. I had a difficult pregnancy. I threw up the whole time. I kept saying "I'm never doing this again". When I was in labor I told the nurse "This is the last time I'm doing this." I ended up having a c-section and told the doctor I didn't care what kind of complications occurred because I was never going to have any more kids. An hour later when I had my son in my arms, I looked at my husband and said "I can't wait to do this again!" We're going to wait until the time is right, but we're looking forward to having more.

Answer 5

my son is 8 months old today, and if we were financially secure and the economy was doing a little better - i'd want another one now!! actually, like you, right after having him i was like, " i want to do this again!" LOL...



it was a long labor, had some complications with the epidural, long labor, etc...and probably the most painful thing i'll ever have to experience... but the pushing part was so easy. he was out in 3 contractions. and i told my husband it was such a huge challenge, kind of like a competitive game or something lol. and i want to do it again! :)



the rush/ feelings you get afterward can't even be put into words. and to watch your little baby grow and change everyday is something i want to always have the blessing to experience. :) Although I get no sleep, because my son still doesn't sleep through the night.... i wouldn't have it any other way

Answer 6

Not at all.

I bawled like a baby after my son was born because I missed being pregnant that much. My pregnancy was amazing. My labor was great too. Uber painful, but I still got through it with no complications.

I did NOT want another child up until about 3 months ago....but even then and still, I don't want another for at least another year and my son is 18 months old! I enjoy giving him this time while he's still a baby to himself and not having to share it just yet with another sibling.

Answer 7

My first son was born Nov 3rd, 2008. The pregnancy was a breeze, but the labor and delivery was an absolute nightmare. Anything that could go wrong, did. I was in so much pain after he was born, too, I swore up and down that was it and he would never have a sibling. He's now almost 2 months old and I love him more than anything and couldn't imagine not having more.

Answer 8

For me it goes back and forth. Immediately after the birth I thought I wanted two more kids and became upset when I realized I might not have the "time" for that as I'm 34 right now. Now that our little one is 7.5 months old, I'm thinking I would be fine with just one more. I work, my husband works from home and is a SAHD, we have two dogs and by the time I'll feel ready to TTC again, I'll probably be 36, so it'll probably just work out that way. And I'm fine with it. I love my daughter so much that any other children (one or two) that we add to the mix will only make it that much better.

Answer 9

This is a very interesting question.

After having my first in July 05 I said NEVER AGAIN. I had a terrible pregnancy and gained a lot of weight (that I'm still trying to lose) (27 hours of labor and ended up with a c section)



After I got over the initial shock, I wanted another one and got prego on Jan 07 (Mc at 11 1/2 weeks in March 07.) I was heartbroken and really wanted another one.



Got prego in July 07 and had another beautiful baby girl in April 08.(Easy pregnancy and scheduled c section)

After becoming RIDICULOUSLY busy with 2, I said NEVER AGAIN!!!



Now the baby is 8 1/2 months. I was watching her baby video (like the first time she laughed) and I REALLY want another one.

My hubby just got diagnosed with some medical issues that may make it difficult for us to have another one. I am sad at the thought of not having another baby. (Maybe adoption?)

But yes, despite being the most intolerable pregnant woman, and getting terribly sick, and having another c section, I would have another one!! Babies are such a gift!! I would like to try for a boy(although the odds are stacked against us with 2 girls). I think if my hubby has another girl, he would move out!!!

Merry Christmas!

Answer 10

Oh heck yea I wanted another one!!! That's why when my daughter was 15 months old I became pregnant with my second and I am due 3 days after my daughters 2nd birthday. My first pregnancy was great than rough towards the end but that's normal. I missed not being pregnant. We want our daughter to have a sibling and friend just like my husband and I did, we come from bigger families. This is our last and we are so excited!

Answer 11

I don't want to have another child because I never want to be pregnant again. Don't get me wrong, I had a very easy pregnancy and labor, it's just something that I have experienced once and never want to again. I would love to adopt though. I have really been giving it a lot of thought because I want my son to have a sibling and I feel like we can offer a good home to a child. But, my husband is totally against the idea...so we'll see.

Answer 12

Right now my answer is absolutely-freaking-not. Right now, we're elbow-deep in diapers and baby toys and occasional sleepless nights (he's 7 months) that I think I would have to be legally out of my mind to want to do this all over again.



That, and while my pregnancy was easy, delivery was not and ended in a c-section. I also had pretty bad PPD, which required medication to get my emotions back under control. The addition of our son caused some real strain on our marriage (including trips to a marriage counselor).



I'm happy to say everything's going great now, but it would be years from now before we even consider having another.



On the other hand, we have everything we wanted. We wanted a baby, we got our (healthy, beautiful) baby. We both wanted a boy, we got our boy. So in one sense, it's like, "Why? We have our perfection here."

Answer 13

My pregnancy was really rough, and my delivery I had problems with bleeding after hours of very hard labor I know babies are amazing but labor is not lol. So unless I can figure out a way to invent a painless delivery I really don't want anymore kids.

Answer 14

From 35 weeks on I was so miserable and tired of waiting on my son. I just wanted him to come out. He had no more room and I was always measuring large for dates. Even tho my birthing experience was not the greatest and some of the nurses/dr made it bad for me. I would love lots more children. My son was born May 31st. He wasn't planned and his dad said "I don't want any kids or we aren't having any". Well when I found out I was happy/scared/excited any my husband was pale as a ghost haha! But after he found out what he was and I started getting bigger and he could feel/see him moving. He was all about it. Even said at 6 months pregnant on one of my WORST feeling days he says" I would like to have a girl" I could've hit him real hard lol. But now that my son has been here over 6 months and despite the really fussy and grouchy times( I also think if God didn't want out son here or thought we would be good parents. He wouldn't have helped put him here). We just love him to death. I want him to have a brother or sister or more lol. Just dunno If I can convince his dad. If I had a place to put them I would have like 4 more or so. I will see what God has planned for us

Answer 15

I used to think I wanted 3 kids. Now 11 months after having my first I'm thinking more along the lines of 2 kids. I love my son and I want him to have a sibling but having kids is very hard and was very draining of me so I think i'll stick with the idea of 2. I don't want to have the next til my son is around 5 or 6. I want him to be able to understand that this new baby is his little brother or sister and that he has to love them and help protect them like big brothers do.

Answer 16

I swore I would never have another baby after a terrible pregnancy and horrific labor. But within three months I was wanting another one.



When I took my baby to the doctor for his very first checkup at three days, one of the nurses asked me, "Are you pregnant again already?" I said, "No, I just gave birth a few days ago, it takes awhile for stomachs to go down after giving birth." Oh I was heated. I have no idea why i shared that story.

Answer 17

Labor and pregnancy had no impact on our decision. I am at very high risk for blood clots, preeclampsia, preterm labor, and even stillbirth (when pregnant) due to a clotting disorder. My husband and I both grew up with siblings and wanted the same for our 1st child.



Congratulations on your new baby girl. : )

Answer 18

Before I had my daughter I wanted more children. After I had a terrible pregnancy and a rough delivery, I wasn't sure I wanted more. Now that I'm over the "traumatic experience". I want to do it one or two more times! No matter how tough it was, it's so worth it.

Answer 19

As soon as I gave birth I thought "I want to do that again" (by which I meant give birth)



I have two now. ;-) They're closer together than we planned but oh well.



Both labours were natural. My second pregnancy I had SPD, which kind of sucked.



However I wouldn't say we are done yet.

Answer 20

I waited 8 years before I decided to do it again. That was a terrible mistake because I think the older you are the harder it is on your body.

Answer 21

For me I don't feel like I'll ever NOT want to have more babies. My husband had a vastectomy after our 3rd because we were happy with 3 but also to stop ourselves from having 15 kids! :)

Answer 22

I adopted my too.I would like to adopt or have 2 more.