How did you mommy's get your baby to be really attached to you?

Question

What things can a mother do for her baby to be extremely attached to her? is it true that breast feeding helps?or haveing your baby sleep in the bed with you?? what things did you mommy's do?? When i have a baby or babies i want them to be really attached to me to the point that they will want to spend most of there time with me. my niece never wants to be held by my sister n it bothers me to see that because she is her mother. please give me ideas..

Answer 1

Babies attach to those who do for them. The one that comes when they cry, who feeds when hungry, when changes when soiled. They dont know genetics or family ranking they just undestand who meets their needs.

She needs to reprioritise & accept her responsibiliteis to her daughter.

My 1st is more attached to his Dad & alway has been. When born 3mths prem I couldnt do anything for him , I had an infection in my right arm (iM also right handed) so couldnt put that habd in his humi crib. While I expressed for him it was Dad who fed, bathed & changed him & even now at 14yo he goes to Dad 1st.

I co slept & exclusivley breast fed all 3 & Im an at home Mum. Our 2nd 2 (1 boy 1 girl) are deffinatly 'mine'

Answer 2

I'm don't know what kind of sling you have, but my son loved the Infantino Sling Rider and would always fall asleep when I put him in it. He's 3 1/2 months now and too big for it, so I got a Snugli Hug carrier-adjustable sizes for him and easy on my back. He fussed the first time, but now he's perfectly content and usually falls asleep. A lot of mothers I know swear by the Maman Kangaroo or AzureWraps, but I was never comfortable with them, although I didn't give them much of a try. See if you can borrow from friends or family first (a day or two should be enough to see if you and your baby like it) before you shell out the money for a new one. Good luck!

Answer 3

You can't force your child to want to be with you 24/7. You just care for your child and be the best parent you can be and it will happen naturally. It's also a matter of personality. My first son was attached at my hip as long as he was awake. He even had a phase where he didn't want to go to my husband. He would scream and cry if I tried to let him hold the baby when he got home from work. And I couldn't even consider letting anyone else holding him. He eventually began to tolerate my brother and my dad but anyone else? Forget it. I didn't do anything to make that happen, it just did. And he's still pretty attached to me at 2 years old. My second son is only 5 months but we can already see some personality differences. He'll actually allow other people to hold him. He smiles and laughs at my parents and siblings rather than crying or hiding his face in my shoulder like my first son. Another difference is co-sleeping. My first son loved to be in our bed. My second did too at first, but around 3 months he started waking and fussing for no apparent reason when he was in our bed. When we switched him to his own bed, he started sleeping straight through. I don't think he loves us any less, he's just the type who needs his space. They were (are) both breastfed.



Every child is different. You can't control this type of thing. Just be a great mother and you'll have a special bond.

Answer 4

Babies naturally attach to their mothers-- you don't have to do much to have this happen. In fact, babies will even be attached to moms who are unkind to them. When you are thinking about your niece, it would be prudent to consider her age. If she is mobile-- crawling or walking-- then she is likely to pull away from her mom so she can explore the world. This is part of becoming an independent human being. Babies that are secure in mommy's love have an EASIER time doing this because they TRUST that their mommy will be there when they need her again. And not just mommies-- daddies, caregivers, etc. It's not healthy to be one person's "be-all-end-all." I think you have maybe never dated a Mommas' Boy and had to deal with someone who was too attached to their mother. Date one of these and you may feel differently-- they are NAUSEATING. It's far better to help someone become an adult who contributes what they can to the world with an understanding that it doesn't revolve around them.

Answer 5

Babies will automatically become attached to their mothers, all u hafta do is be there for them and take care fo them as much as possible. Yes breastfeeding can help, and so can co-sleeping, but even mothers who formula feed and have the babies sleep in a bassinet or crib will be have babies that are attached to them as long as they spend time with them and are attentive mothers.



Ur niece doesn't like being help by ur sister cuz she prolly sees u and ur mom as her mothers and not her real mom, since she's never there (It's one thing for her to go to work i can understand that, but she needs to spend more time with her daughter after work and not go out with her boyfriend so much, so really needs to learn to take responsibility for own child).



So as long as ur there for ur child as much as u can be, they will stay attached to u.



Hope this helps and good luck, :D

Answer 6

1. Breastfeeding

2. Taking baths together (skin to skin)

3. Skin to skin in general

4. Holding them to help them sleep, help them get through the REM cycle (20 mins) and then lay them down. It is a nice bonding experience.

5. Family bed sleeping or co-sleeper arrangement

6. Nurture parenting methods (attend to them instantly, nurse on demand, try not to allow them to cry more than a few minutes their first 4-5 months of life--read Dr. William Sears books)



Your baby will be attached to you regardless...but the above methods have made my children attached to me (and father) in their younger years and made them really independent and secure children in their older years. They are also very well behaved. I would recommend reading books by Dr. Sears and making sure you have a lot of lactation support!

Answer 7

well first of all I breastfeed and this may be part of the reason he is attached to me, other reasons would be because for a while i did sleep with him as a newborn in the same bed,always being around him cuddling him changing his diapers etc. will help you stay close and attached to ur baby.



I love the fact my son is attached to me but its really hard to get anything done because he always wants me to hold him and if I put him down he cries so trust me its good to have them attached to you but it has its cons too.

Answer 8

being reliable and being present are what helps form the bond and attachment between babies and parents.

co-sleeping and breastfeeding don't necessarily assist attachment, but they will not hinder it, so are worth a go!



spending time with baby

enjoying time with baby

talking with baby throughout your day and involving baby (even a one week old likes it when mummy tells him about what laundry she's folding while she folds it)

and attending your baby's needs as quickly and efficiently as you can.

Answer 9

I'd like to know how old your neice is. It is not normal for a baby to not want to be held. Babies naturally bond to their mother.

Answer 10

same as r'smom, we co sleep, breast feed, baby wear and generally dote on our babies!



My oldest is autistic, I was told by his neurologist that he was amazingly affectionate for an autistic child, and it was all because we practiced attachment parenting. He was never left alone, so he was never able to shut himself off in his own world like so many autistic kids.

Answer 11

I spend most of my time, feed her, hold her in my arm, talk to her, changed her diaper, comfort her and rock her to sleep. My older daughter and my newborn is so attached to me and my husband. My newborn baby smile to me everytime when I talked to her.

Answer 12

I breast feed and co-sleep and wear him in a sling and pick him up when he cries (when he makes a peep actually). I sing to him and love and kiss and hug him. constantly.

Answer 13

it's natural to be attached, which words can't explain how beautiful it is, but, trust me, you don't want her *extremely* attached to you, this can pose a BIG problem for your family... you will see!

Answer 14

Just spend every waking moment with them and give them what they want. You'll probably regret this later like when you and your husband want some "alone" time and your baby can't sleep with out you or your baby could end up like me and be put on prozac in the third grade for SEVERE anxiety. It sucks ok. GOD bless!