Would you help someone if you saw them struggling to do something while holding a baby?

Question

I went to the laundromat to wash my comforter because it won't fit in my washing machine.

I was trying to hold my 5 and 1/2 month old in one arm and load a king size comforter into the washing machine, add detergent, put in the coins, and get it started while the laundromat attendant stood there and watched and did not offer to help at all.

Then when it was done washing I had to pull it out and move it over to the dryer, while he still stood there and watched me juggle this huge sopping wet comforter and my baby.

I know he doesn't HAVE to help, but if I saw a woman doing this I would at least offer my help to her. Would you?

Answer 1

I think that is awful. I have always helped anyone if I could. How hard could it have been for them to get off their lazy behind and help you? My son is the same way, he likes to be held mostly.



I was at BJ's in the self checkout lane and a similar thing happened to me. I had my son in the front of the cart and he was getting irritated because he had been sitting there a while so I picked him up and continued scanning my items. Well I had a huge bag of dog food on the bottom- you would think one of the managers or associates just standing there talking could have helped. I finally had to interrupt their conversation to get someone to scan it for me. After the guy scanned it, he just walked away and continued talking. Why couldn't he help me load my cart back up- I obviously had my hands full. It is so rude!

Answer 2

I've had this happen to me I live in an apartment and on the second floor at that, well I had taken my son for a walk in his travel system and was trying to get the carseat the stroller and the diaper bag up the stairs while several men stood around and watched it's really ridiculous I hope I teach my son to know better then that.

Answer 3

Would it be the end of the world for you you to put your baby in a stroller for just as long as it takes for you to put your comforter in the dryer or vise versa? Surely you must own a stroller..if not get one. I know no mother wants their baby to cry but for moments, I think its ok. The laundry attendant may be totally clueless and perhaps its not in their job description to help mothers in need. If you are too nervous to put your child down for a moment then perhaps next time take your quilt to the dry cleaner.

Answer 4

Yes, I would help you....but most mother help each other out because we understand. Men aren't the same.



I'm sure you're a really good mom but you can't do it all. Sometime you just have to let the baby cry in his stroller or car seat for a few minutes while you put clothes in the wash. It's not going to kill him and it doesn't make you a bad mom.

Answer 5

I would definitely offer to help!!! Some people are uneasy holding babies and a lot of moms are uneasy having strangers touch their babies, so I would offer to help with the washing while mom tended to baby.



The other day I was pushing the stroller outside of a Wal-Mart, while trying to carry two of those large Rubbermaid tubs. The parking lot was full of snow and ruts from tires and it was almost impossible to maneuver the stroller. A very kind gentlemen helped me by taking the Rubbermaids to my car and then helping me to maneuver the stroller. I was sooo thankful for his help!

Answer 6

I sure would even if I had my 10 month old in my arms I would help anyone who needs an extra hand. Sometimes I end up opening doors for people who don't have anything in their hands! I guess some are more thoughtful than others. Can't blame them because they don't have the same thinking as we do.

Answer 7

Some people just don't care. I on the other half do care. My little sister can stand there while i work my butt off trying to clean the house and she knows that im struggling but she just doesn't care. Be a good example by helping other people and they will probably take the hint that that is what good people do. You can't change the world but you can help.

Answer 8

Yes and I HAVE before. It's hard enough to take care of a baby let alone juggle a baby and other items. I never ask to take the baby though I always ask to help with the item or project... don;t want them to think I'm a crazy baby snatcher. LOL!

Answer 9

yes...i would. i'll help anyone. i even held the door for a man in a wheel chair and he screamed at me that he "wasn't incompetent..."...that doesn't deter me. if this was a young guy, he might have been afraid to hold the baby. he was probably afraid to approach you and offer. with all the freaks in the world today, he might have been afraid of you screaming at him to stay away from your baby. (of course you wouldn't have!) being me, i would have opened my mouth and said something..."uhhh buddy...care to give me a hand?" once when my older kids were little, i was walking in wal mart. i was holding the hand of my 4 or 5 year old and pushing the baby in the stroller. this man ahead of me turned and looked at me. i of course assumed he was going to hold the door for me. that jerk let the door close just as i was hurring along to get in. i had to struggle to turn the stroller around and get in. i walked all over wal mart until i found that guy and read him the riot act. i just hate people with no common courtesy.

Answer 10

Oh yes I would help!!



Just the other day I was in the grocery store with the baby in his sling and he was sitting up in it and fell asleep. I didn't want to move him into the lying down position so as to not wake him up so I was holding him with one arm while struggling to put my bags in the cart and the cashier came over to help me I was like THANK YOU SO MUCH!! It is really so nice when someone comes over to help you.

Answer 11

Yes

Answer 12

I know I would, it's hard sometimes to hold a baby while your doing other things especially in public. Some men just lack common sense.

Answer 13

Yes of course I would offer to help anyone, male or female in the situation you described.



Question, why did you not ask the attendant for help?

Answer 14

what a shame the guy didn't help you bet you were mad as hell. Health and safety have gone way over board you are not allowed to do anything for fear of being reported for something. That could be why he didn't offer to help you

Answer 15

If it had been a woman, or if the guy had kids, they would probably have helped you.

But, a question for you, why didn't you put the baby in a stroller or something? He was probably asking himself the same thing.

Answer 16

Even though I would help because I know exactly how hard it is, alot of people who don't have children keep away from helping.



Then you have the shy people who don't want to even look at you let alone do the decent thing and help!

Answer 17

I help anyone. Pregnant women, mothers, ladies, men and children. I see rude people all the time, some people really just dont want to be bothered.

Answer 18

That's rude. I've helped a couple woman who struggled to get their stroller while holding the door open. so I would run over and hold the door so they can get through

Answer 19

i absolutely would.

i know that when i went out shopping one day, this older lady saw me struggling and asked if i needed some help but i got it and i just politely said no thank you, its the thought that counts though. thats all that matters

he could have at least asked if you needed any help instead of just looking at you struggle

Answer 20

I would, but I'm a parent and know how it feels to be in that position. However, I don't think you have the right to expect others to help you nor to be upset when they don't.

Answer 21

I would most definitely help her. I know how it feels to be in one of those situations. You wish you could miraculously grow an extra set of hands.

Answer 22

Of course I would and you wouldn't even have to ask. Too many people these days are just there for themselves and wouldn't help their own parents.

Answer 23

yes i would help or offer to help and i have had help from all dif kinds of people...but there are some out there that are only interested in helping themselves unfortunantly

Answer 24

Next time, put the kid in the dryer on 'Fluff'.



You spelled babby wrong, BTW.

Answer 25

i would help. you should have just asked the attendant to do some of the things and help you. that's what they are there for!

Answer 26

Yes, absolutely.



Maybe he doesn't have kids. I know before I had kids, I was pretty clueless about that kind of thing.

Answer 27

Yes. I would have offered to hold your babby for you, then I would have kidnapped that cute little thang!

Answer 28

Absolutly. I would complain to his manager, I mean they pay him to work and help customers.

Answer 29

He should have helped especially since he works there!!

Answer 30

of course!



plus hes not much of an attendant if he didnt help!

Answer 31

Yes, while wondering why doesn't she have a car seat or something to place the baby in while she does her laundry!



5 1/2 months old and to large for a car seat?

Answer 32

I would have babby in the little rolling baskets they have.

Answer 33

I would definitely help someone.

that's pretty mean that he'd just stand there.

Answer 34

It depends because people are so funny today.

Answer 35

i would have offered to help

Answer 36

some people have absolutely..no freakin idea..* I would have helped ya..

Answer 37

im sure most people would- its common courtesy!

Answer 38

I would go and help them!!!Duh

Answer 39

yeah I would have helped.

Answer 40

i would help right away

Answer 41

same here maybe he just didnt want for you to get the wrong idea... idk..... some ppl are just inconsiderate

Answer 42

Duh, without a thought. He must not have been raised with manners.