I'm a Single Dad. How do I go about putting my baby up for Adoption?

Question

Ok so I'm a young single Dad and here's the story, I have a 7 month old baby and my Girlfriend just decided she didn't want to be a mother and walked out. I had encouraged her to go through with the pregnancy and said I would be there for her always and that we could have a family together. So she had the baby, but then afterwards she got extremely depressed and never developed that bond. She is very young, attractive, a big party girl, and she has this dream of becoming an Actress. So she just walked out one night and left a note saying that she was going to Los Angeles to pursue her dream and that she wasn't equipped to be a mother and deal with the "burden". For the past several months I've been alone with our baby and have no help or support, its really hard for me without my Girlfriend and I don't feel I can do it on my own. I've been living in my mom's house and she barely helps at all and I have to work and go to school. I feel so overwhelmed. I feel like the best thing for my baby would be to put him up for adoption. What's the best way to go about this?

Answer 1

i wish i could come help you! what a sucky situation =( i dont think you necessarily need to give up your son. go to social services on monday. you will qualify for food stamps, and wic (will give you all the formula you need), and financial assistance. they will also try to track her down and get her to pay child support. dont feel ashamed for this stuff... you are fully deserving, and more importantly~ your son is! he will want to be raised by you... guaranteed. if youre ever having trouble getting your baby to sleep, try swaddling him, it works wonders. youtube it if youre not exactly sure how. also, just carrying him around with you in a front carrier around the house should help. its stressful taking care of a baby on your own, but you can do it!

Answer 2

I found this site. I hope it helps.

http://www.myadoptionagencies.com/



Don't keep the baby because somebody on Yahoo Answers told you to. I'm not saying don't keep the baby though. Do what you think is best for the baby. Adopted children go to households that are caring and genuinely want a child. Most people that adopt just can't have children of their own. Keep what's best for you and the baby in mind when you make your decision.

Answer 3

don't do it, you'll regret it someday, try to go through it with everything his your kid, when i found out i was pregnant it was hard, i had so many things in mind, i though about abortion and then given it up for adoption, im 18 and currently 17 weeks pregnant, its hard i'm not gonna tell you is fun or easy specially if you have to work and do everything by yourself.. but after feeling the baby.. well probably you would never understand cuz you're a guy and guys dont carry the baby but i feel is a magical bond, i mean it's mine i made this baby.. and i the idea of aborting just got out of my mind a long time ago... this is your kid..

take care of him, try to give him as much love as you can.. trust me when he grows up.. you never know he can be someone that can help you out with everything if you're young you guys are gonna be able to talk about girls, he will definitely be your best friend, don't think about it. just dont do it

Answer 4

She cant just do that. Have her pay child support. Im a 21 year old guy. If i where to have a baby id keep it. and im poor as hell. I just wouldn't want my child raised with another family. People are weird now adays. They beat kids,rape. etc. Think of something else. But first get that child support. If it was you that did that she would be all over you for that money

Answer 5

ur 7 month hold has a bond with u now, and she cant just leave.. take her to court and get child support.. If u put the baby up for adoption at 7 months that may emotionally damage him... u love him dont u, the baby is not a burden adn he is not a cout for u to just put up cuz u cant handel it... im sorry

Answer 6

Really think about what your doing. she is already attached to you and you have a bond with her. yes its hard at times and stressful. i know i had my daughter when i was 15. and yes it was hard and i had to work alot to support her but if u give em up for adoption you might end up regreting it. but if you really wanna do it then go to the court house and they can tell you how to go forward witht he adoption proscess

Answer 7

Dear couragous dad,



I hope that you find what is best for you but I wanted to share our story and page with you! We have been trying for so long. I wish you the best. Feel free to contact us anytime at [e-mail]



http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/pages/Looking-to-Adopt/140956719308024

Answer 8

Your situation is temporary.



Adoption is permanent.



You will never get him back and may never see him ever again.