How often do you and your husband/SO go out without baby?

Question

And when you do, who watches baby?
What do you do? I know, nosy, but you don't have to answer.
How old was baby when you first went out?
How does baby handle it?

Answer 1

We don't go out as often as we probably should =]



But when we do go out, it's Dinner & a Movie.



Grandma & Grandpa babysit.



We left him with his Grandma & Grandma for the first time @ 6 months old while we went to Lunch and then bowling =]

Answer 2

with a 27 month old and a 7 month old that is nursed it is rare that we go out. However just last week we actually went to a movie just the two of us. My mother in law babysat. I have only had a small handful of people babysit my kids. my mother in law, aunt, sister and two of my close friends. However I am definitely becoming more easy going with the second. Our movie plans were last minute, and I was actually going to call a cousin's daughter to babysit. She is 13. I have heard she is great. Although my mother in law offered, I was quite proud of myself for even considering a student. I am not as overprotective as I use to be.

My kids handle the sitters well. My 27 month old gets excited to have someone babysit her (I am a stay at home mom) so it is a change for her. THe baby is pretty good but sometimes gives them a hard time about accepting the bottle. I have had to leave a wedding once to nurse her. Oh well. After we do go out together I am so happy. It really is a nice break!! All moms need a bread once in a while.

Answer 3

My son is 4 months old. My husband and I have been out once without the baby. It was when my son was only a couple of weeks old. My mother, father, and younger brother all came over to my house to watch the baby. It was mother's day and they said it was their mother's day present to me. We just went to lunch out and I called twice in the hour and a half that I was gone. I just wasn't ready. The baby was totally fine. He had a great time in fact. I was the one that was a mess. My husband works nights and I work days, so we don't have much time together without the baby. I have gone to a movie once when he was 3 months old. My son stayed with my mom and my younger brother and I went to see a movie. Again, he is great. Me, well, I have gotten better. I didn't call during the movie. I did call on the way back home. I have yet to have him stay with someone who is not family. My neighbors have offered, but I am just not ready for that. They have been my neighbors for 4 years and they have 6 grandchildren, but I am just not ready yet. Can you tell it is my first?

Answer 4

3-4 times... a year (sad, eh?)



Almost always my grandma, once my mom.



Party at friend's houses (but more than likely we drag the kids -hehe our poor non-breeding friends). Dinner and a movie, or dinner and walk around the mall =)). Our last date was a complete disaster, the food was bad, the bank card stopped working, we had to go back to my grandmas to figure out what was wrong with our bank, etc.



I never, ever leave my babies until they are at least 6 months old, don't even ask me to. I have to check on them if they are just in another room for too long (30 minutes is too long at the start). But once I can leave them sleep without panic then I know I can go out.



Neither of my babies really care. Sometimes if they fall asleep when they wake up they fuss a bit. Neither of my babies every took bottled breastmilk either. My second will take water only from a cup.

Answer 5

We only have 1, and he's now 14 months old. Our first date was when he was about a month and 1/2. My husband's mother took care of him (she usually is the one to do that). Since then we've probably been out maybe 5 times? Not very often. We usually just go out to eat. He used to give people fits to watch him, now he's fine. I remember the first time we came back from dinner (we hurried back and were only gone maybe an hour and 1/2), and my mother-in-law said he didn't cry for her -- that was probably 4 months ago.



You reminded me, I've got some movie gift cards we need to be using!

Answer 6

My husband's mom lives like 15 mins away and is our babysitter. We have gone out 5 times before and my son is 14 weeks. We went out for the first time when he was about 4-5 weeks for a friends movie premiere, then for a friends birthday party and the others were for dinner and drinks. The first few times my boobs got so engorged I was really uncomforable. I mean they looked like big fake implants. Now, my son is only waking once during the night and my boobs are getting used to it and not getting so engorged at night. Baby usually is asleep by 7 or 8 and goes to sleep pretty well with Grandma. Hopefully he doesn't develop seperation anxiety to bad since he is getting to know Grandma early. Good Luck!

Answer 7

We try for once a month date night- my girl is 8 months now and we missed maybe three. The first was our anniversary in March- she was 2 1/2 months. We actually went to dinner and the opera- a little dorky I know but I had wanted to go to the opera for years and they were doing a re-cap one of all there most popular operas. My husband surprised me with the tickets a few nights before and it was a great night. My MIL babysat and it went really well- she had no issues. My mom often does the babysitting though because she lives with us so I just get my girl settled before going out and then there is no issues. There has been a couple times where mom couldn't so my MIL did it and when Lily woke up in a strange place from a late nap she cried at first but settled quickly. She hasn't been looked after anywhere other than home or my MILs and has never stayed overnight there. She loves her grandmas and is usually content with them.

Answer 8

We had more alone time when our oldest was a baby. He was preparing to go to Iraq for a year so we were trying to savor every moment. This time.... it's been over a year since we've been out alone w/o kids and we *desperately* need it! My parents have always watched my oldest. They have a new in-ground pool and I'm refusing to let them keep the boys (unless I'm there) b/c there is no safety fence around the pool (I have a 3 1/2 year old). So, I have love/hate feelings for the pool- love using it but I lost my babysitter (yes, I'm stubborn).

We do have alone time during the week after the boys go to bed.



We used to go to a sports bar, just go have dinner, movie, etc.



How old was baby when you first went out? He's 6 months old and we haven't [pouting]



How does baby handle it? If anything like his brother, he will do fine until he's closer to a year old.



We are going up north to visit my in-laws in a couple of weeks and will be celebrating our anniversary at that time as well. His parents are watching the kids while we go out of town for 1 night, I can't wait!!!!!

Answer 9

Not very often. Usually, the Fourth of July and then on New Year's Eve. She always stays with Mamaw and Papaw (my in-laws). So, it's probably been around a total of 4 times and she is three years old. I cry every single time and can't seem to have much fun without her. But those are always all-nighters.



You know, if we had a trusting babysitter closer to home, we might be able to go out for just an hour or two. That wouldn't be as hard on me as having her stay all night somewhere.

Answer 10

My in-laws keep Landon about once a month. In fact, they are keeping him this Saturday night. We either go to a movie or out to eat, then we will come home have a couple of drinks, have sex without having to be quiet, and then cuddle for the rest of the night without having to get up early to make a bottle. I first left Landon overnight when he was a few months old. I cried pretty much the whole night but I don't cry anymore when I leave him, because even though I miss him lots, I know he is happy and being well taken care of. He loves staying with his grandparents because they spoil him rotten.

Answer 11

In 10 months we've only been on 4 dates. Once we went to a bowling tournemant, then to a MN Wild hockey game, then out for drinks with friends, and just last month went camping overnight with a large group of people. My sister lives nearby, so she has babysat for us each time. I think Eli was 4 months when we first went out. This week my daycare was closed and I don't have a lot of vacation time at work, so he is at grandpa and grandmas for 3 whole days!!!!! I miiiiiiiiiiss him so much, but it will be wonderful to catch up on some sleep. He is doing great, sleeping better than he ever does with me!!!!! He also does great with my sister, although by the time we usually drop him off at her house it is late and almost his bedtime anyway (8pm) so he just sleeps most of that time.



We are going to go on another date next month, to an amusement park.....wheeeeeeeee!

Answer 12

Not often enough. Lol, don't get me wrong, we love our baby but our family and good friends live 3-5 hours away so it's kind of hard. I wouldn't trust just anyone with him and we're still getting to know people around here.



We do, however, have "alone time" when Noah goes to bed. Last weekend we made nachos and watched a movie. And he did spend a night at Grandpa's the beginning of this month because my husband had his high school reunion. We were told he cried for about 30 minutes after we left. :(

Answer 13

My hubby is a drummer and I went to go see him last saturday at a concert... that was the first time we've been out together since the baby was born and she is 2 months old...

She handled it very well because she slept the whole time! (Her bedtime is at 8:30 and she wakes up at 4am so I just made sure to get home before than)

I left her with my mom, the only person besides my husband that I trust to look after my baby.

To be honest, I had so much fun! We really needed it, but I missed her alot and was happy to come home right before she woke up for her feeding =)

Answer 14

my husband and I try to go out once a week without our son (who is now 5 months old!) we started doing this when he was about a month old, just to have some time to talk to each other without a crying baby. we usually go out to dinner (we live in Buffalo and have been trying many of the random restaurants that our city has to offer!) but sometimes we just go for a walk or (on rare occasions) we go out with some friends! My mom watches our son, as well as my in laws when they are in town...also my aunt loves to watch him (she has even volunteered to watch him overnight before!) and my 16 year old sister has come over to watch him (but only for an hour or two, and her house is only 3 blocks away so she can always call her mom to help)... right now our son really doesnt mind us leaving too much, i am also a college student so I leave him every morning with my step mom or mom... and he's pretty good as long as he knows the person watching him!

Answer 15

My daughter is almost 2. And since she turned 3 months of age we leave her with one of the grandparents about twice a month. Sometimes we get out 3 times a month. Thankfully both set of grandparents live within 20 of our house. At first my daughter was really easy to leave. Now that she is older she will always cry for a few minutes but then she is fine.



Unfortunately most of the times we go out it is to go see my husband play adult league hockey or to see an NHL game . So it isn't romantic.



I am SAHM and my husband is a video game programmer.

Answer 16

I don't have a baby, yet bc i'm pregnant, but with my sister she has a 10 month old, she went out first at new years, when the baby was 2 and a half months. I don't think they've been out, with the baby since new years. best wishes x x

Answer 17

Haven't got a chance to yet she is only 6wks! If we go she goes!



It makes it harder 'cause I am a stay at home mom for now and I breast

feed so she is almost always attached to my hip ..er..breast lol!



I have been out a few times since she was born....mostly doctors appts and to a restaurant last night (once the weather is nice we'll do walks)



Luckily, I have a really supportive husband that will do laundry, clean,

cook ...etc...change diapers..watch her while I nap without being asked!! He is a real blessing ...I try to do the same for him when I

can

Answer 18

I only went out twice so far with my little one, so I am interested in seeing the results from your question. I always feel bad about leaving, like I am a bad mom for wanting to get out of the house every once in a while.



I saw the movie the dark knight-(great flick btw)



And I went clothes shopping for work.





Both times I havent been out of the house for more then 3 hours, and my little one slept both times, lol. It was harder on me then it was for her. And the first time I went out was she was couble days older then a month old.



My parents watched her, but I know at some point I would have to hire a trusty babysitter when I want to do things like that. Its hard but I am told I need to get out more lol.

EDIT: I am a single mother so I dont have a father to got out much. I want to date but I know that will be a long time from now, my parents think i spoil my little girl by being with her as much as I can, btu I know she loves her mommy so much and she loves the attention lol.

Answer 19

Ha ha ha ha ha ha...



Umm..sorry. Okay...I've composed myself...



We went out once for our anniversary when baby was about 5ish months. My mother watched him. We went to dinner and immediately back to pick him up and I only called her three times. Ben had a great time...I did not!



I suppose though if I didn't work I would be more likely to want to go out and get a night out once in a while. My mother had me convinced to let her watch him again this coming weekend so that hubby and I could go out again. But this morning as we were getting ready for work my husband asked if we could skip dinner and take Ben to the zoo instead. I jumped at the idea. Sigh...

Answer 20

My son is 6 months and we have only gone out once without baby. We went to a concert on the military base to celebrate their 50th anniversary. My kids stayed at their grandparents. My daughter slept over as she is 3.5 years, and we picked up my son when the concert was over. Brady did NOT like being left without mommy, cried the whole time we were gone. Even though I left a couple of bottles of breast milk there. He was 3 months at the time, I figure I won't get any more nights out till he's on regular cows milk since he loves mommy's boobies too much.

Answer 21

My husband and I are pretty young (I'm 23, he's 27) so you'd think we would go out to fun places now and then but we really don't...I never really thought about how lame we are until you posted this question!



We've had our in-laws babysit a few times in the 6 months since Emily was born. Once we went vehicle shopping, once we went grocery shopping, and once we went to a fundraising event for 2 hours. Em handles it so well...she adores her Grandma and Grandpa!



I think it might be time for a mommy and daddy date night!

Answer 22

Almost never. Then only family watches the babies who are now 9, 6, and 4.



I don't really recommend it though. If I could get family to watch them more I would. I don't trust anyone with my kids.

Answer 23

4xs in 11 months...each time a grandparent has kept him



1 time over night for our anniversary (he was 2 months old)

1 time to go to a concert ( 1 hour) (he was 4 months old)

1 time to go out with friends (4 hours) (he was 6 months old)

1 time to go out to dinner (45 mins) (he was 8 months old)



Ian's fine except for when it comes time to eat.....He's breast fed and refuses a bottle :( But...I think it's always harder on us. The first time my husband woke me up at 7 am and said 'Get dressed. Let's go get our son!" When we're out we only talk about him so we've decided it's easier just to stay home with him or take us with him most of the time! He's 11 months old now.

Answer 24

my baby is almost 15 months old and the only time we went out without her it was a day time thing . it was when she was i think 7 months and she was in daycare . we went out to a shopiing mall to shop . trust me i wish there was somebody that would watch her so that hubby and i can have a date once i a while . i long for that moment . . both grand parents are back in france , dont have much of a family here . but we do go out a lot with her

Answer 25

We used to go out for a small date night once a week... but money is super tight right now, so we've skipped it the past few weeks.



We usually will grab dinner or a movie-nothing big... His parents watch the baby. They live right next to a huge mall with a huge movie theater and a decent selection of restaurants, so it's easy for us. And we know that if anything happens, we're literally 2 minutes away. I guess we started doing date night (again) when our youngest was around 4 or 5 months old (he's 12 months now).



From what I hear, my youngest is an absolute angel while we're gone- but he's really clingy with me as soon as I arrive ("clingy" being my mother in law's term...I don't think he's clingy, he just likes snuggling with mommy!). I guess he goes with "out of sight, out of mind" when it comes to me. Our oldest has always been great with the grandparents- he might throw a bit of a fit when we leave, but it's because he wants to do what we're doing, not because he'll miss us. He'd spend every night with Mama Bo if he could (she spoils him!).







We haven't left our youngest overnight yet. He spent the day with the grandparents yesterday because my fiance and I went to visit my brother and his girlfriend for the day, that's the longest I've been away from him... but haven't had the guts to leave the little one for the night yet.

Answer 26

i actually go out all the time without my baby! but im lucky i have reliable sitter that i trust with all my kids - my grandma.



the first time he was about 6 weeks, when i went back to work. but would call like 5 times a day to check on him.



of course he was so small he really didnt understand what wasgoing onm but he did fine, but got constpated from switching to half breastmilk and half formula since i was planning on being able to take him to work and i didnt have much of a store!

Answer 27

usually about one a month...thats what i think is 'fair'. my mom watches him. he was only about a month old the first time cuz we went out to celebrate daddys birthday but then we waited till he got a lil older (about 3 months) before we went out again. we usually just go out to eat and then do a little dancing or if someone is having like a birthday party or wedding or something then we'll go to that but otherwise we live in a small town there isnt much to do. oh and he handles it good since its just my mom watching him and he usually sleeps most of the night aways so its no big deal.

Answer 28

My daughter did great my parents watched my daughter and we went to cedar point for the day and night. my daughter did great and she was i think a month and half old... I think it is best to get out and do things with the two of you as much as possible granted it is not much but go to dinner or the movies. my husband is a truck driver so I went with him to chicago for 2 days again my parents watched her and then she was 3 months old. she did great then. I think also that the sooner you have others watching your child the better the child does with separation anxiety. Good Luck!!!

Answer 29

Hm, we have been out once together in 8 months without Alyssa... my mom was in town when Alyssa was 2 months old, so we went to dinner then... Alyssa has been babysat in other cases, but it wasn't so I could go out with my husband... just when he was at work and I needed to go to a class or doctor appointment or something. Hm, that kinda makes me sad...



The one time we did go out... we shopped at Babies'r'us for our daughter... then ate a quick meal and talked about her. Wow. I think we need to get out!



I don't like to be away from her... I'm a SAHM and I've only been away from her perhaps a total of 12 hours since she was born. I just don't have any desire to be away from her. I miss her too much when I'm not by her...

Answer 30

our daughter is 4 1/2 months old and we have yet to have a date night!! I have begging my husband but he still feels she is too young. So our anniversary is coming up in october and when it does he is taking me to dinner and our daughter (who will 7 months old) will be staying with my sister for a few hours. I think she will handle it just fine.

Answer 31

We haven't yet, but our anniversary is next month and we have already made arrangements to have grandma while we go out for a nice dinner. It doesn't bother either of us that we don't go out much, she's stayed with grandma while we work so I don't think it will be a big deal for her when we go,she'll be 9 months old then.,

Answer 32

Our little one was 3 months and we stayed at home while kiddies went to Grandmas house. We just hung around the house like spare parts. The baby was fine though. She didn't even miss me.

Answer 33

So far just once, Elyse is almost 5 months and this was about 3 weeks ago. We didn't really want/need to go out but my mom insisted and really wanted to baby sit so we went to a movie - we were gone about 2-3 hours. Elyse was a wreck the entire time and when we got back to my moms. I must say we won't be doing that again - I should have listened to my mommy instinct and known it was too soon to leave her with a sitter, even if it was Grandma.



We usually just take her with us wherever we go, I don't really need to "go out" that badly.

Answer 34

Actually he spent the night at grandmas on Saturday and we stayed home and did nothing! It was great! We ordered pizza and just relaxed! He is 10 months. We usually tke him woth us everywhere. We have never asked anyone to watch him, they always have offered. We have 2 first time grandparents who really love our son.

Answer 35

The first time we went out our baby was four months old, we went to a music festival and he stayed overnight with my mother in law, he was totally fine, I was panicking for the first couple of hours but after about 10 phonecalls she managed to convince me he was ok! We dont tend to go out alone much, he usually comes along with us and we go out for meals but he is very well behaved. Sometimes we leave him with mother in law and go to the movies or for a meal. We only really go out now if it is a big occasion like a wedding or a party. We tend to have friends round to the house more now for BBQ's or just for a couple of glasses of wine, we dont miss it though, our life is better now than it ever was.

Answer 36

my husband and i try to go out ounce a month to dinner, a movie or to see music. our son stays with Nana or my sister and he does great. we had him around friends and family very early because we wanted him to be comfortable with other people. we can't be with him all the time, unfortunately. for us at least it's important to have time alone so we can keep our relationship strong for our son, even though we end up talking about him the whole time, it's still our time.

Answer 37

My mother takes my child once a week (saturday evenings) and keeps her over night. So if I intend to do something that is the night that I am going to do it. That is kind of like my daughters time to do something out of the norm and she loves it.

Answer 38

I think we got out on our own for a few hours when they reached four months. We never really "needed" to get out, but it was offered so we went to a movie and had dinner.



His aunt watched them and they did great!!

Answer 39

we try to go out without the kids once a month sometimes twice.my kids are 4 and 22 months they stay with my mom. we go to dinner and a movie. or we might go play pool and have a couple of drinks. my kids dont mind ...they love their grandmother. its important to have alone time with your spouse. thats how you keep the romance :)

Answer 40

We both hardly ever go out. We are always taking the kids out with us. I always wanted to have adult time but no one seems to wanna watch our kids.

Answer 41

get a baby sitter

who is either older or has experience with babies

like cousins or brother/sisters

especially someone you trust

Answer 42

once a week. my BF mum finds out what his days off are, and arranges to keep her overnight on that day. we go for a meal, or go for a drink, or get a takeaway and a few dvds. last week we went for mexican food then went to the pics to see 'you dont mess with the zohan' (soooo funny), then went to the amusements and wasted money - i won my daughter a piglet and an eeyore teddy though which was cool! she was born 14th august and we first left her overnight 5th october, so about 2mos old. i remember cos it was my BF 21st and his dad booked a hotel for us, we went out and stuff. she loves it, she loves going to grandmas - no tears for mummy at all!

Answer 43

Believe it or not, hubby and I NEVER went out together without baby -- not until she was a toddler and weaned from the breast. If I went out, he watched baby. And vice versa.



When we did start leaving her with a sitter, grandma did the honors.

Answer 44

ONCE IN 6 MONTHS..WE WENT TO A SUPRISE PARTY..HE STAYED WITH GRANDMA AND GRANDPA( MY INLAWS) THAT WAS LAST MONTH..THEY SAID HE WAS A DELIGHT TO WATCH

Answer 45

Rarely

family babysits

everything goes fine w/ everyone