Would you have a baby if someone said they'd give you a house, car, etc?

Question

So this is my life. I'm 21 and in college. I finish my degree in a year and a half. I haven't had a stable place to live since I graduated high school and have been bouncing around from place to place for a while now.My parents recently came into several millon dollars and my mom can't have any more kids. I have a sister who is 1 and my mom has been pressuring me for several months now to give her grandkids. Well she set me up with a proposition. She said that if I got pregnant, she and my stepdad would buy me a house and a car, give me all of my little sister's baby stuff, and furnish the house. Coming from someone who has been on the streets trying to put a roof over their head for the last couple of years this sounds like a safe haven to me. My classes are two days a week at night and the plan would be for me to work during the day to pay for utilities and such and day to day things the baby would need and they would pay for my house (pay the entire mortgage in full) and my car insurance. What my mom would be getting out of this would be another kid in the house while I'm working and at school but it would be agreed upon that I would be the parent and she would be the grandparent.For me the deal seems too good to be true. I will have my degree in a year and a half and I will be able to take care of myself. However I have a ton of debt to pay off and my earnings would seem better fit to paying off student loans and such rather than scrambling to put a roof over my head as soon as I graduate.If you were put in this situation would you have a baby if someone was willing to basically foot the bill for it? I thought my mom was absolutely crazy when she suggested it but the more I think about it, I'm starting to rationalize it and seriously consider it. I hear of older mothers becoming single moms by choice all the time and the more I start rationalizing it in my head the more I compare it to that...

Answer 1

I would not do it...unless YOU really desire to be a mother right now. Having a child is the most challenging and life changing event that can happen in someone's life. Suddenly your life will revolve around his or her life, every decision you make will have to be one that is suitable for you and baby.



Your career will likely become a hassle if you don't get enough time with your child, time to yourself will be almost nonexistent and finishing school is extremely hard when there is a little one. I have one child and I'm married but you could not pay me any amount of money to have a second one! I love her and she brings us do much joy but with both of us having busy careers she's all we can take!



This is not to say that mommyhood isn't a joyous time and that all your dreams couldn't still be fulfilled...but it would be a lit harder and I guarantee you that your life will be a lot easier without the money and a baby than with the money and baby! Have a baby only if it's what you want!

Answer 2

Personally if you don't want to have a baby and that's not something you've wanted for yourself at 21 I wouldn't do it. You've got a year left of college at least work in your career that you went to school for. I wouldn't have a baby if I were you, babies should be brought into the world being loved and cared for not just a rational decision from a proposition your mom gave you. You don't want to end up regretting having a baby just to have a roof over your head and a car. What if your mom changes her mind and your stuck with a car note and mortgage you can't afford on top of having a baby. I would tell my mom to go get a hobby and I will have children when I am ready

Answer 3

absolutely not!! U dont have a child for those reasons under no circumstances! Your mom came into millions of dollars? I say let her adopt a child and she should be helping u as you are trying to get your degree!! She sounds real selfish to me, if u were my daughter i would have never put u in that position knowing your barely getting by trying to better yourself and i am 28Yrs old i am a mother of three! I would be footing the bills for u as would most any other parent so that all u have to worry about is getting your degree!! As a mother myself i cant understand your mother and her morals at all!! Shes rich? She can adopt, in the meantime honey babys are a huge responsibility not only financially but emotionally! This is whats wrong with the world today ppl are having babies and getting married for all the wrong reasons!!! Run away from that moral bankrupt mother of your, get your degree, and wait til your stable financially, emotionally, and more mature before taking on that responsibility!

Answer 4

It sounds to good to be true because it is. Even if I had my rent and car paid for I would still have to work like everybody else to support the child. Honestly your situation is no different then most women out there. If your parents have millions then the should pay you to be a stay at home mom other wise what is your big payoff for bringing a kid into this world? Having babies is serious business. All the needs of that child should be put before your desire to pay off your bills.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Honestly its up to u but it would b kinda ****** up for ur parents to do thaf if they have a couple a million dollers they should just buy u a home because for ubto sell out a baby for a house thats kinda ****** up to the baby like crazy because its like "oh i got the baby now give me my house" does that sound like something u wanna say ? Or like if ur baby gets older and asks how u got the house for like finacial info and u tell him oh i had u and got it all for free from a deal with ur grama does that sond like something hes gonna take in a good way ?unless u want the baby because u want (him/her) & actualy wanna be a mommy and love him then go ahead but to get a house and all that stuff for it thats like weres ur dignity like if it was a last resort then have them buy u a good apartment at most then work ur way up from there because its kinda spoild to just get a whole ******* house xD because u need to learn how to save up and like the value of the doller and financial info and what to look for in the houses and all that so u have ur own info to pass on to ur child ( when u have 1 ) if he has any questions wen older andu can feel like a successful parent knowing u didnt sell out :) good luck i didnt mean anything in a bad way and plus by the way it looks u are not ready for a baby u need to get settled pay off those loans and make sure ur resdy for this baby its a big responsibility ur probly ready already tho and kno all this stuff but u need to think of all this stuff like are u ready. Can u do this. How do u think this will turn out etc.

Answer 7

Wow idk what to say lol I wish someone would have offered that to me lol on a more serious not , I have four little girls that I chose to have at the young age of 23 , because I wanted them and could support them . And if your mother has come in to millions why in the hell doesn't she just buy you a home because you are her baby and doing so well for yourself . Most mothers would encourage there daughters to finish school and make a life for yourself then think about children . Sounds very manipulative to me ............ Just sayin

Answer 8

You're starting to rationalize bringing a baby into the world for money?