How do I keep my 2 month old?

Question

in her bassinet and out of my bed. As well as breaking her of being spoiled. Whoever came up with the idea that 2 month olds can't be spoiled must be crazy. This girl is spoiled rotten. How do I stop it before it becomes worse

Answer 1

My baby girl was the same way girl!! I know exactly how you feel. The best thing to do is get her into the crib and out of the bassinet. I found that Jordan slept better in the crib and I think its because it is roomier and more comfortable. If you don't want her to sleep in the crib just yet, try swaddling her as tightly as possible. My friend does that with her baby and swears by it; Jordan wouldn't stand for it. It sounds like your baby would respond well to being swaddled since she likes to be held while she sleeps. When they are swaddled nice and tight it makes them feel secure, its kind of like being back in your belly for them.

Good Luck!!

Answer 2

Something that is spoiled is something that has been ignored and left of the shelf to rot.



A 2 month old NEEDS a lot of attention and NEEDS a lot of contact. This is how they feel safe and learn and grow and thrive. Remember that just a few short weeks ago the child was inside her mother's belly and was able to see/hear/smell/feel/taste mom every second of every day. When she cries, it is because she has a true NEED, not because she is "spoiled" or trying to manipulate you in any way. You CAN NOT spoil a child this young. She doesn't even have a sense yet that the two of you are separate people or that you still exhist when she can't see/hear/smell/touch/taste you. Trying to force independence on a 2 month old baby is only going to bring about the exact opposite.



P.S.

PLEASE do not follow the advice to leave her to cry! Crying is how she communicates right now! It means she NEEDS something. Even the people who do advocate CIO will tell you NOT to leave a child under 6 mos to cry it out!!!!!

Answer 3

She's not spoiled. She's only 8 weeks old. Babies don't have wants, only needs, and those needs must be met if you want your baby to thrive.



Babies need nourishment, dry bottoms, and a lot of love and positive attention. Their emotional development is just as important as their physical development. Meet her attachment needs fully now and you'll run into fewer problems later.



I know parenting a newborn can feel overwhelming, but honestly, nothing you described is at all out of the ordinary. In fact, it sounds like she's right on track. Needing you so intensely is developmentally appropriate and will be for the first few years. Hang in there, mama, this time goes by so fast and you'll miss it when it's gone.

Answer 4

Is that her picture? Real pretty child! I think she just wants to be next to mommy. This will pass when she realizes that she is secure in knowing she is never far away from you. I held my kids all of the time. I had two boys 13 months apart. They were very happy babies because they were secure in knowing that I would tend to their needs. They rarely ever cried. I know holding her all of the time is hard to do now, but there will be a pay off later when your child is content and good natured and secure in your love. You might try to do what was previously suggested with something that has your scent on it next to her. It sounds like a good idea to me. Oh, I almost wish my babies were babies again! They grow up way too fast!

Answer 5

I am having the same "issue" with my one month old son. I have been told that you can purchase a toy called "heartbeat bear" you are supposed to put it in the bed with baby, and the bear has a heartbeat simulation that is supposed to comfort baby. I keep the bassinette next to my bed, but my lil guy always knows if he is in my bed, or his. Good luck, and when you figure out something that works, let me know!!

Answer 6

when i had my girls i put the bassinet by my bed. The when she would wake up i would put her in my bed to nurse and once she fell asleep i would put her back in her bed. As for spoiled if she is gettting held too much one way to stop that is just to let her cry. Crying is good for babies and they're lungs I know it'll kill you to listen to her crying but put on some music lay her in her bed and let her cry for about half an hour that will help the habit get broken. It worked with both of girls.

Answer 7

you cant spoil a 2 month old, of course she wants to be held and be with you, thats natural, but it wont hurt her to cry some. I have 5 grown children, and I never liked to let them cry, but sometimes you have to, or you get nothing done, as long as she is dry and fed, let her cry a little bit.

Answer 8

just keep putting her in the bassinet and stop running to her the second she fusses crying has never hurt a baby......i have three children ages 5 3 and 2 weeks and even the newborn have learn i won't be there in a split second so they usually wait.....

Answer 9

I think it depends on how she is spoiled. I agree with you on the point of people saying that you can't spoil babies because of course you can. If she's spoiled so much that you can't put her down without her starting to scream and cry then I would say to let her cry it out. I did this with my daughter and I now I have the best behaved 18 month old in the world I believe. People will tell you that you shouldnt let her cry it out but it's actually healthy for the babies. I would try that. Also try taking her out alot of time babies get bored and just want a change of scenery. As for putting her in her bed I think you just have to stick to your guns and as much it will hurt you to hear her cry you have to let her sleep in her own bed. My daughter was sleeping with us for about 2 months also. At first I tried putting her in her own crib and she would just cry and cry and I would end up bringing her back to the bed. After a while she wanted to be in her crib and I was the one who wanted her to sleep with me. Now she can't sleep anywhere if she's not in her crib. Goodluck!

Answer 10

You have the answer in front of you. She can't get out herself. What may also help is if you put something of yours in there, a used T shirt will be fine. The smell of you will comfort her.

Answer 11

If your baby is used to sleeping with you. Place one of your pajama shirts or something with your scent in her crib with her at night. If she smells you she will be more comfortable. Also tuck a pillow or soft stuffed animal behind her so she will feel a presence and won't believe she is alone.

Answer 12

Dear Mom

This is what you signed up for! To provide a safe, loving, and caring home for your child who has been lovingly placed in your arms, straight from God's arms. Please enjoy it while you can...She just wants to be near you, she feels safe when she is around you. Babies DO NOT manipulate. They only know 2 things.

1. When they have a need

2. Whether or not their need is being met.

Be patient sweetie!



PP

Answer 13

that's not spoiled she wants to be close to you that's all. She needs to be able to be near you until she is 4 months.

Answer 14

read some books on parenting and join a mommy group through your church or hospital so you can talk to other mommies about how they handle things like this.



YOU are the parent, you are in control, you set the standards.

Answer 15

As hard as it is going to be you will have to leave her there and let her cry this advice actually came from a doctor...they said it may seem like the are screaming for an eternity but they will be fine

Answer 16

Just keep putting her in it. She will fuss, but soon, she will adjust. Be patient and determined.

Answer 17

don't carry her all time & when she naps put her in her bassinet as well as at night time - she will cry ,but that's when you become stong and let her cry- nothing will happen to her - this will be while she adjust to the transition

Answer 18

Stop holding her. Or stop spoiling her.

Answer 19

just change it now before you cant